How to make a woman orgasm for the first time in her life?
What are you going to do?
You can’t rely on intercourse. All the guys before you have tried that. You can’t rely on licking her clit. All the guys before you have tried that. And you can’t rely on rubbing her G spot. At least some of the guys before you have tried that.
You are going to be different in 2 ways:
1) You are going to perform a different type of stimulation
2) You are going to use effective mental techniques
The reason why you have to perform a different type of stimulation is because all the previous stimulation that she has felt has been associated with her NOT having an orgasm. You must AVOID that.
You will use deep spot stimulation. It happens to be very effective in giving a woman her first vaginal orgasm, and most likely no man has ever done that to her before.
And now for the critically important mental techniques.
Remember, in order that you cause her to orgasm, you must command respect with her. You will be giving her commands, and she must do them for this to be successful. Thus, her respect for what you say must override her own self consciousness and self limiting beliefs.
The biggest thing keeping her from having an orgasm is her belief that she can’t.
You will say to her: “Oh Baby, it makes me feel so close to you when you feel this pleasure that I am giving you. The more pleasure you feel, the closer it makes me feel to you.”
She will follow your commands to accept the pleasure because she wants you to feel even closer to her.
Researchers at the University of Groningen in the Netherlands have used brain scans of women to show that the areas of the brain involved in fear and anxiety are deactivated during orgasm. This comes as no surprise to us. It is a requirement for orgasm. She must feel safe, and she must feel reassurance in order to have an orgasm.
Most women who have not yet had an orgasm are women who are unable to surrender to the pleasure that they are feeling in their body. That could be due to a number of reasons, but it usually goes back to some fear or anxiety around sexuality. So you must make it such that she continues to feel safe and reassured with you.
Even before she gets to the point of feeling any fear or anxiety, you must make her feel safe and assured. Say to her: “Baby, I love giving you pleasure. I feel so close to you. I am here for you Baby. I am here for you to feel safe with me. Feel reassured that I am here for you Baby.”
As she starts getting close, she will start feeling a loss of control. This can be very scary to a woman who has not yet had an orgasm. You must distract her from her own concerns about the intense pleasure that she is feeling that is making her feel a loss of control.
You do this by giving her a task to perform.
Say to her: “Baby, it pleases me when you feel the pleasure I am giving you. The more pleasure you feel, the more it pleases me.”
Now you set up for the final drive.
Say to her: “Do you feel safe with me Baby?” She will say yes.
Then say: “Do you trust me Baby?” She will say yes.
Now go for it. Continue the stimulation firmly. “Now I want you to surrender to me Baby. I want you to surrender completely to the pleasure I am giving you Baby. Surrender to me completely. Give yourself over to me completely Baby!”
Take on the responsibility. As she feels more pleasure, continue to remind her to surrender to you.
If she does as you instruct, she will continue to orgasm.
After her orgasm subsides and she settles back down, hold her close and say: “Baby, I feel so close to you. I just cannot hold you close enough.” This is her reward for following your commands.
Do not mention anything about orgasms unless she does. If she does, go ahead and discuss it with her.
Once she has her first deep spot induced vaginal orgasm, use subsequent evenings in the bedroom to rub less of her deep spot and more of the rest of her vagina, such as her G spot, or the back wall of her vagina. This awakens her vagina even more.
On that night, spend the evening making her feel very special. Make sure the emotional intimacy is very strong. Then in bed, get her really close with clitoral stimulation. But before she comes, move to deep spot stimulation. Bring her up close to an orgasm again, and stop before she has an orgasm. Now she is very close and ready. Put on a condom, which signals to her that you are preparing to have intercourse, and then with her consent you have intercourse.
The first time a woman has an orgasm in intercourse is a very powerful emotional experience for her. After she has an orgasm in intercourse, she may even weep with overwhelming emotions. Hold her close and make her feel safe and assured.
All of the above was about distracting her from her own concerns, insecurities, and self limiting beliefs, by giving her another task to perform, while the goal was simply to receive pleasure. But YOUR goal was to give her an orgasm.
All of the above can be used on a woman who is dependent on clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. For such a woman who has clitoral orgasms, but has never had a vaginal orgasm, she probably thinks that she is not one of the “lucky ones.” But at least you do not have to overcome fear and anxiety over having AN orgasm.
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